Please pray for a fellow member's father...

[jenimadison]

Below is from another thread...


The stress that my family is experiencing with my Dad fighting terminal cancer right now has helped me to learn that all the little things, like a cracked windshield, a messy house, not having the right clothes to wear, getting caught in rush hour traffic, mean absolutely nothing by comparison.

His illness has really put things in perspective for me.

Jacee


Please pray for Jacee's father, Jacee and her family. Now must be a difficult time for you all. I pray for precious memories to be made and for strength.

[Mouse7088]

Oh mercy yes, I saw this post earlier and Jacee...your Daddy and family will most definitely be in my prayers.
Glad you know what's REALLY important..some of us may never grasp the concept and like so many, sadly it may take a jolt such as this to show us the "light", embrace each moment hon'...so sorry for the pain you and your loved ones are going through. Know if you ever need a shoulder or an ear, we're here. Hugs to you.

[mayfly]

Jacee, I care, and will be praying. Its amazing what it takes for us to realize what is important. God bless you sweetie.

[lovemydogs]

Jayce, I'm so sorry. I lost my dear brother in January, and NOTHING brings us to reality faster than this. My prayers will be with you and your family.

[jacee]

I clicked here when I saw the subject line because I thought I might find another DOD member who was suffering with a sick parent. I was so surprised to find that Jenimadison had posted this!!

THANK YOU, JENIMADISON!

I can't ask for prayers right now because I can barely function. My dad is young (53), married my mother when I was a teenager, and took me on as if I were his own. My mother was married several times, so I never had a dad (didn't know my own), but John is just the most kind, wonderful person I have ever known. He has taken good care of my mother and me.

Since I got married 6 years ago, my Dad and I are even closer. I've become quite the Daddy's girl, and I feel very angry and cheated out of a long relationship with him. Right now I can't understand why this is happening or what good could come out of it. He is suffering -- in and out of the hospital, constantly having back pain, unable to eat or drink normally, so he's sick or dehydrated. And I'm 5 hours from the hospital, so I'm exhausted from driving back and forth, but feel incredibly guilty if I don't make the trip.

So, I guess since you're all willing to pray for us, please just pray that we will continue to have the strength to deal with this, that it will be over soon with a minimum of suffering, and that we will somehow, someday be able to function without him. I just can't believe that my dad may miss my 29th birthday -- and hasn't got a chance in heck to make it to my 30th, a milestone we always joked about. He will not be at my daughter's school plays, and my youngest probably won't even remember him.

I've been fortunate to still have both sets of my grandparents, and I've never experienced this kind of loss. I've never lost a sibling, a friend, or even a PET! I know that I should be grateful for that, but I feel like I'm having to dive into the ocean without having learned how to swim.

You cannot know how VERY important your kind words are in this thread. I have no siblings to share this with, and few friends who understand, so I TRULY appreciate your bringing this up Jenimadison . . . and I am thankful as well for the nice responses from lovemydogs, mayfly, and mouse.

Thanks again . . .

Jacee

[jenimadison]

Here's more prayers Jacee. I'm very sorry to hear of what you and your family are going through. I do hope your father is able to become as comfortable as he can. Please continue to make memories. You're very blessed to have the father you have.

Please let me know if I can help in any way. I know what it's like to lose a loved one (my Grandmother passed away in my arms 3 years ago).

May God be with you during this time and give you strength to continue.

[mayfly]

Jacee, I am so sorry. My heart hurt when I read your post. This is horrible, so horrible. I just want you to know that God is not out to get you, this illness is not from him. I don't know why he lets us go through this stuff, and he may yet step in with a miracle. But I do know that he knows how we feel, he experiences loss also, every day.
Jacee, I just wish I could take you under my wing, and wave a magic wand and make this all better. Please know that I care, and am still praying. Please post here with your feeings, if you feel comfortable.
((((((((Big Hug)))))))))
You are a sweetie, and a blessing of a daughter. Your dad couldn't ask for a better one.

[lectric]

Jacee........We will be thinking of you and your family.
I understand completely what you all are going thru.
My father passed away several years ago from multiple myloma. If you need to talk just email me...Elizabeth

[Vc1612]

I will be praying for your father. It must be hard on all of you right now. But, I do understand about puting things in perspective. I wish you and your family the best.

[geepie1961]

I'm so sorry to hear this. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

[Mouse7088]

Oh Jacee...I came back in here to see how you were doing and ended up sitting here shaking my head in agreement to so much of what you said.
My Mother has also been married several times and altho I "know" my BIO-father, he's not who I look upon as my Dad. See, I have a John too..okay technically I have a Larry. My Mom married him when I was finishing up Junior High and it changed my life forever. I know my younger sister, Mom and I were a family before, but when Larry entered into it all, it became...REAL FAMILY. Something I never really had before then, something I never really wanted until Larry.
I don't know the pain you are going thru, but I can only imagine it would be the same as I would feel. I would feel so jipped right now if something would happen to Larry, yes I would be greatful for the time we've had with him, but as some kids..we never had the "daddy" from the time of birth. We also got our Dad's probably during one of the hardest ages of a child, I personally know I was a pain in the butt. I wish he would have been there for the first step, word..etc..
I have a great deal of repsect for "step"parents (mercy, I despise that word: step)..anyone who chooses to be a parent to a child that is not of their blood, just totally deserves so much. It's almost as if they found their way to us.
mayfly...I just sat for a few minutes after reading your post and took the time to cry..I am sooooo sorry for your family's pain and you know, I wish I could take the whole bunch of you under my wing and make it all just go away.
Jacee, if you ever need to talk, feel free to bend my ear.
Hugs to all of you!!!

[KensLuv22]

Jacee,

My prayers and thoughts are with you because I know exactly how you are feeling and what you are going through.

Cancer is a terrible disease......and I can't really say too much more about it. I lost my father to heart disease when he was 58. I still miss him so much and there isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of him. It's usually the funny things that he did that brings the memories back....the good ones. I am just so thankful to God that He took him in his sleep because I have seen first hand what cancer does to a body.

I lost my dear, dear grandmother 3 days before Christmas of 1999 from pancreatic cancer. I nursed her at her home every night for 6 months until she took her last breath. I was with her, and I was so sad but happy at the same time that her suffering was over.

There is nothing more important right now than to spend time, quality time with your dad. This is the time that you will cherish the most.

Big {{{{{HUGS}}}}} to you and your family.

[jacee]

You know I have to tell you that I love this DOD family.

I'm here with my minimal posts, and yet, I feel like a part of this group. I appreciate your replies to Jenimadison's post about my dad, and even the fact that so far, this post has had 50 views means so much -- maybe 50 of you are praying for my dad. I hope so. We continue to need all the prayer we can get.

My dad is still in the hospital. He may get to come home on Wednesday. His tube feedings have had to stay at only 50 ccs at a time -- whenever they try to give him more, he gets nauseated and sick. They've put him on IV nutrition, the feeding tube, and some clear liquids, but a lot of the food by mouth makes him vomit.

He continues to lose muscle tone, and seems to get a bit weaker, but I think that he is "feeling" a bit better. A bone scan showed no sign of cancer in the bones (they were worried because his back was hurting so much, but my mother tried to convince the doctors that it was the fact that he'd been run over by a tractor twice when he was younger -- they thought she was KIDDING! LOL )

When my parents return home, they will get hospice care. Like Jsalba's mother, dad's social security/disability will not kick in for five months from the date of application. Financial stress is beginning to wear on dad -- along with the guilt of not being able to "provide."

I am so angry that this has happened and I continue to struggle with the going back to church issue. I don't know if I can. I have ordered "When Bad Things Happen To Good People" from [Only registered and activated users can see links. Either login above or Register Now] It should be here soon. Maybe it will help.

In the meantime, I appreciate all of your continued prayers . . . thank you so much for the thoughts and kind words.

[jacee]

Jenimadison -- I am so sorry for the loss of your grandmother. That is an event that I have yet to experience as well. I hope that it doesn't come soon, but I'm afraid that the stress of losing my dad may soon start to affect the health of my grandparents. Unfortunately, my mind is so full right now, I can't let myself think of that. I just hope for the best.

What great comfort though for you to be with her when she died. I hope I am as fortunate. I live three hours from my parents, and I have a lot of guilt over not just "being there."

mayfly -- Okay, you cannot post anything that nice again! LOL -- no one is allowed to make me cry anymore!!!! It's not hard to do these days!

Thank you so very much for your kindness mayfly. It is amazing that you used a phrase that I often use -- "my heart hurt" -- because it truly does in this situation. My heart is literally breaking, but I hope to hang on. My most heartfelt gratitude to you for saying what so few say -- "I don't know why he lets us go through this stuff, and he may yet step in with a miracle". As much as I appreciate people's good intentions, sometimes I like to try to skirt the reality of the situation and HOPE for a miracle. Your words to that effect mean so much.

Elizabeth (lectric) -- I appreciate your post. I'm sorry for the loss of your father -- and I thank you for your offer to listen to me -- I may take you up on that!

VC1612 and Geepie -- thanks for your prayers -- those prayers are most important . . . keep them coming!

Mouse -- You know what I need you to do?? If you're near Larry, go hug him -- or if you're not near him, tell him just how much he has meant to you. Just make sure he knows. You may think he knows -- but make CERTAIN he does.

Re: "STEP" -- when my mother married John, I called him "John" -- when I got married, and he walked me down the aisle, I started calling him "Dad", and when I REALLY "want" something -- I call him "Daddy" even though I'm in my late twenties! LOL But you know what? I was very aware of Dad introducing my mother and I to people as his "wife and step-daughter" -- the day he stopped saying "step" and just called me his "daughter" was the day I knew that blood ties don't make people family.

Kensluv22 -- seems you have experienced great loss. I hope that you find comfort in the memories of your dad and your grandmother -- and that you are happy for the moments that you shared with her while nursing her.

All of you are so kind. Now, I have to blot my eyes and go to a meeting!!!

Have a great day.

Jacee

[snooze14]

I am sorry I am posting this so late but I just saw this post.

I am truly sorry, Jacee, for what you are going through right now. I will pray for your father and your family and for you.

I can't think of any comforting words to say to you in a time like this. I am sorry.

{{{Hugs}}}