prayers for mom-in-law

[misothere]

Ahhh - that explains my sudden urge for "nuts" & me buying almonds. My mom used to eat them alot & I've heard just "5" a day is a great antioxidant.

[misothere]

When I called SIL a couple days ago, she told me that MIL has started going downhill really fast & she hopes she doesn't pass so quick to her brother (my hubby).

I said....at least you know she's not in any pain & she's lead a good life & try to hold on to that.

[katlnhats]

Lisa,
I'm sorry to hear about your mother-in-law, it's one thing after another for you. Keep eating the five almonds a day, that's actually documented as a cancer preventative as well, though only in the natural health books as well as Dr. Cayce books.
Hugs ~ Marilyn

[june72]

Originally Posted by katlnhats

Of course you're both nice - we're just all nuts from all that's happened (but we're still nice-nuts!)


Marilyn

[june72]

Continued prayers for your mil!

[misothere]

Still sticking to the almonds daily (& multivitamin & fish oil capsule) that are all supposed to help me be healthy. Tough job, but somebody's gotta' do it & I'm alone now & need to make sure I take care of "me"!

I am having mixed feelings about trying to visit MIL since it's at least 2.5 hour drive each way & because of her Alzheimer's. Christmas of 2005 - she did not even recognize my hubby (her son). Last Christmas we couldn't stay too long since she gets very aggitated when her "routine changes" & since we don't visit her 5 days a week like SIL, she was very anxious & it was a short visit.

I'd be visiting more for myself, & out of respect for my hubby & my SIL & BIL. I'd have to make sure weather wasn't rainy & I did not travel at night too, so as not to make my driving worse for others on the road. I just get really stressed not knowing exactly where I'm going & hubby's always drove & I'm so-o bad with sense of direction that if a road in the mountains was closed or something I'd be so uptight.

[misothere]

SIL left a voicemessage Thurs nite - yet did not mention anything "bad" about MIL. She mentioned calling back tomorrow, so I'll find out then I suppose.

[PennStateCutie]

Please keep us posted - lots of prayers for your family!

Teri

[june72]

Still praying for your mil and the rest of youns!

[misothere]

I called SIL last nite & asked about MIL.

Now I'm not sure if SIL's call before about "MIL going downhill" was all "Dramatics" or to Prep me for what I heard tonite.

SIL is MIL's Health Proxy & has been her Financial Proxy (or whatever) for years. So, last call SIL was all worried about MIL passing so close to her bro' (my hubby) & now she's had a change of heart.

She's told Alzheimer's Unit to take MIL off an Alzheimers Medication called Aricet (? spelling) since "SIL feels" it's doing her no good any longer & admitted it's $130.00 a month.
Staff informed SIL previously that if MIL goes off that medication there could be a Fast Decline.

SIL said she figured MIL didn't have any Quality of Life anymore anyway.

MIL hasn't been eating great for months now, but does like & drink 2 Ensure a day. I live 2 hrs & 45 min. away & I have to listen to what SIL says is going on with MIL & as of just after Christmas...the 2 Ensures were a routine.

(It's 'cuz MIL isn't "disabled enough" to have a one on one feeding helper & when they noticed she wasn't eating her food on tray - they did the "easy" route & gave her Ensure as a Meal Replacement).

SIL was told by staff that some patients can live for "years" by just drinking Ensure & not eating.

Basically SIL's change of heart from not wanting MIL to pass so close to her oldest brother's death has changed.

Now SIL says ...."if mom dies tonite - I'd be OK with that, 'cuz she has no quality of life"!

I need somebody else "take" on all this - so I don't feel "like the bad guy" about my own emotions now.

[june72]

Gosh Lisa I really don't know what to day on this! That would be a tough decision!

Prayers that God's will be done with your mil!

[misothere]

Thanx & God knows that "I have no words" for the situation with MIL, Alzheimer's is such a SAD disease.........you know the person doesn't remember you at times & such, yet thier body is basically healthy.

I pray for research to help with Alzheimers in our future!

[june72]

Yea it is very sad! Continued prayers for your mil and for others battling this!

[misothere]

SIL called on July 4th. & asked what I was doing & all the "routine questions" she has since my hubby her oldest bro' passed.

When she asked what I had in the checking & savings account "THIS TIME" - I stood up to her & said........
"you ask me this every time we talk"!!
(She said - "I guess I forgot")!!

I asked if she's talked to her youngest brother & she said "NO, I've been a bad sister" (yet she finds time to interrogate me with money, house, Probate Attorney, & Law Suit....questions each time we speak).

She never mentioned her mom (my MIL's) health either!
(I forgot to ask after being interrogated with the same questions & wanting to get off the phone too).

My BIL (her only other younger brother) has had his pickup truck in our yard since April 2006. He came here when he lost job, with expired license & sticker & license asking to pitch a tent to live.

We took him in for about a month or so on the couch which wasn't working out in our cramped home.

I directed him to a agency that got him into VA Home for a 2 year period. (SIL told my hubby that since she watched out for thier mom, that thier brother was my hubby's responsibility). Does SIL think that "I" inherit responibility over HER youngest brother & his truck now?

SIL has pretty muched mostly watched over MIL's FINANCES (not just MIL) & used them like her own.
(In fact last conversation she took her mom off a prescription for Alzheimer's patients & mentioned it COST $130.00 a month). She said it wasn't doing her any good, but staff told her previously MIL will go "downhill" fast without it & it 'KINDA" makes me wonder about SIL's TRUE INTENTIONS??

I had NO PROBLEM saying to her.....so when you call your brother ....ask him what he's going to do with his truck that's been here over a year now.

Figure, she's taken over the "FAMILY" cottage she should allow his truck to be parked unregistered there.

My hubby used to be the one that opened up the cottage each memorial day wknd & did all the mowing & hedge triming etc... (He also was the one who winterized the cottage too).

Yet..........so far, even with me mentioning I NEED certain personal items from the "Family" cottage - has my SIL INVITED OR ASKED me to go up there.

I'm being pushed out...guess "In-Laws" aren't FAMILY!

[june72]

good for you for standing up to your sil

You have to do what you need to do for you! It is not your responsibility to take care of your bil. You take care of yourself!

Many prayers!