need everyone's prayers so much!!

[skyangel]

I am keeping you and your family in my prayers. I allso hope you find a job soon. God Bless you.

[misothere]

thanx skyangel for your prayers. I'm new to this stuff & I went back & read some of your threads to other people who are new & realized I should be replying to each person as a thank you for thier time & prayers.

So to all who have responded & prayed for my brother John & our family that I have not done a quick post reply to I'm sorry & will try to do that in the future.

[katlnhats]

misothere,
Continuing to pray for you and your brother, John and also the rest of the family. No need to respond personally to me, I know you do have "so" much going on and on your mind, updates are good, and we look forward to your posts. God Bless,

Kat

[misothere]

Update on my brother John. Early yesterday he lost 6 pints of blood & they've stopped blood thinner medicine for the original blood clot issue. His body in now septic & visitors must "suit up" so they don't get an infection. I still don't have a job or health insurance & need to visit & hope I don't end up with health issues. Your prayers for him & for me to not get sick after visiting are greatly appreciated!!

[june72]

Sorry to hear John is having a rough time! He is still in my prayers! When you go to see John, just ask God to shield you from any sickness! He can and will do that! We have had to suite up for seeing Lawrence now for a while! When I go I don't let it bother me, bc I ask the Lord to shield me and my family from any problems! We serve a mighty God! Hugs to you and your family!

[katlnhats]

Our prayers are with you, as always. Unfortunately, you do get used to suiting up, but it's for protection, so try to keep that in your heart when you visit him. I know that's easier said than done... and my heart goes out to you and your family.
You will find a job with insurance when it's time. I know that may sound strange, but you're exactly where you should be right now, by your brother's side. God will keep you safe.. I haven't had insurance for awhile now and though it's hard, we're getting through till I "do" have it.
Gentle Hugs,
Kat

[Deb12]

Your whole family are in my prayers, I hope John will keep fighting and pull through this and be able to deal with what has happened. I will also pray for you to get a good job.

[katlnhats]

Continuing to pray for John, you and the rest of the family and hoping that John is doing a little better.

Kat

[misothere]

Update is NOT good on my bro' John. Yesterday SEIC nurse suggested we have a family meeting (including his fiance) to make sure everyone's "on the same page".

Me & my 2 sisters & 1 BIL were there to here John has "almost zero" chance of survival & they've done all they can 'cuz he's young - but he's plateau'd & machines are keeping him alive. Dr's confirming what we knew is exactly what we were expecting to hear at this point.

John's fiance did NOT come 'cuz she went back to work this Mon. (or maybe avoiding our opinions) since she's stopped calling me nightly around 11:30PM on way home from hospital. Good thing I'm laid off - 'cuz otherwise I'd be in bed at that time (but I listen til' cordless goes dead).

My dad lost his wife 2 yrs ago & his oldest son 4 & 1/2 months ago & he could not be there. He's raising John's 13 yr old which has been referred for immediate "help" after "spooking her pediatrician out after yesterday's physical & talking about "killings in her dream world".
She already goes biwkly to therapy etc..., but so much is going on, & the pediatrician is quite concerned!
So much going on in such little time - when will things get better?

[june72]

First I want to say drs. don't know everything, but we also don't know God's plan! I know its hard to see them this way. I really wish there was something to say to ease the pain and hurt for your family!
Keep being there for John as you have and support him. Just remember God has the final say!
Your family is going thru so much right now! Many prayers for you all!
I am sure Johns df is having a very rough time too. This is the man that she planned to spend her life with. She is in my prayers too!

[katlnhats]

Hi,
Prayers for you, John and his fiance' and your entire family. You've surely gone through and are going through SO MUCH lately and in the past as well. Don't give up hope, God has his own plan. Things can and may change for the better... miracles happen and you just never know.
Accepting God's will is sometimes the hardest thing we have to do, but give it some time, as God knows a lot more than the Dr.'s do.
Prayers for you to find a wonderful job with all kinds of great insurance and also be there for John and his daughter and probably his fiance as well.

Gentle Hugs,

Kat/Marilyn

[misothere]

Forgive me for not responding to Lawrence waking up which is EXCELLENT news for him & his family! Great holiday gift! (I AM REALLY GLAD FOR YOU ALL)!

Drs are Not God but say my brother John has "ALMOST ZERO % of survival & it's prolonging his death now.

John has amputations on left leg to thigh, & above right ankle & prior Renal failure, before the Large blood clott issue's. So he has so-o much going on ALL at once. Another infection has developed!

His spleen is dead & "parts of his liver", & his kidney's will NEVER be able to function without dialysis.!

When he's visited, it's basically like "going to a Wake" 'cuz he's lost so much weight & the whites of his eye's are YELLOW!! Dr's say he's on total life support & has plateaed & they've ATTACKED everything to help him survive 'cuz he's 46! Drs say John doesn't have enough breath's per Min. (if off oxygen machine) to survive (not counting all the other organ's dying). So may God's will be done.

I (& both my sister's & our Dad have already said Goodbye or "see ya" or whateve each believes)

Medical Proxy is held by his "Fiance" & Dr's believe all his family is "on the same page except her" & she but "CAN'T" let him go.

[june72]

Don't feel bad for not responding to Lawrence post! You are going thru so much right now. I understand more than you realize, and I want you to know that if you need to talk to someone you can email or pm me.

You are very right, drs are not God! We don't know God's plan for any of us. Death is a appt we are all going to make one day or another and the Lord is the only one who knows that date.
Watching a person suffer is the hardest thing that anyone will ever face, I know bc I watched my mommy suffer for the longest time. I didn't care that this one was getting better or that one was pulling thru........I wanted to see my mom better. I would get mad bc all God had to do was speak be healed and she would have been fine. It wasn't God's will to keep her here. Then to be honest the last 2 weeks of her life I prayed for God to take her home, she was suffering so much. Thats also a hard thing to do. I still don't understand why she had to go so early, but I know it was God's will and she done her work here and it was time to go.

I am sorry that things are looking so grim for John. I know there is nothing that I can say or do to make your heart feel any better. Just be there for him and trust the Lord to do what is right for John.

We still don't know what God has in store for Lawrence, not sure if he will still keep doing good and recover or not! I am just hoping and praying that, it is God's will for him to.

I will be praying much for you and your family. I will also pray for your brothers fiance, that God will lead her in the direction she needs to go. I couldn't imagine the hurt and pain you all are walking in! Please know that I are here for you and if you need me, just holler.

((((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))))))))

[misothere]

Update: Dad & I visited John today & it was so hard seeing him look so much worse in a weeks time. We're a loving family that even old boyfriend's & girlfriends still visit (& now call) my parents (now parent) even while John's fiance is there. So when we told John's fiance she'd ALWAYS be part of our family no matter what she should know we're not kidding.
(BUT, I must say with her having Medical Proxy & Us watching John die slowly will truely make it hard for us all).

John's fiance still gives us distorted positive updates, saying he's opening his eyes when hearing her voice reporting the nurse on duty says "he only does that when you're here". Yet, I saw eye movements today (& hiccups). Nurse said any movements we see are totally involuntary, due to him still being under a medically induced coma due to extreme body trama (which confirms what Dr's said last week at a family meeting that fiance couldn't make).

Our family is basically watching John "WASTE AWAY" on "TOTAL life support" with almost zero % chance of survival AS OF last week. The week before chance's went from 10% down to 1% & I asked fiance if she had signed a DNR. (She wouldn't hear of it & has been avoiding my calls & emails since then. She's also hung up on John's youngest sis' for saying "you should let him go"!

His organs are dying one at a time, & amputations are showing slight healing but on & off "mysterious" infections - plus he lost 6 of 8 units of blood on 11/4 that they "fixed" (artificial blood I think).

His fiance lost her daughter 8 yrs ago & never had chance to say goodbye & right now the best gift she can give herself is to "let him go" & "be there when he does'!
Our family is praying for that gift - for John's sake!

SORRY - I DO BELIEVE IN GOD & WE'VE ALL PRAYED, but if you just "SAW HIM TODAY" - you might agree.

[katlnhats]

Ohhh, misothere,
I do understand. I too, (don't have any siblings) but I watched my Mom suffer so much, and this was before you had to have a DNR bracelet, and when we went to the ER for the final time, and I saw her go home in the ambulance, and the Dr's at the hospital wanted to hook her up to all kinds of things...... I said no more. Let her go... she's suffered enough, and that's the part that his fiance has to get to. Not that it makes it any easier on any of you, it doesn't, but have faith that she "will" get to that point, it's that she loves him so much and cannot bring herself to let go and let God.
My husband and I both have living wills and already know that if we're in that situation, we'll let the other go Home to God.
I am so sorry... and you're always in our prayers, you, your family, John and his fiance. Please keep us updated. This has got to be so terribly hard on you all.

Gentle Hugs,

Kat