STROKE

[misothere]

I'm so-o sorry for your loss, but may your dad rest in peace. You put it a nice way that he's with his dad & I hope that brings abit of comfort to you knowing that.

I continue prayers for you & your mom & the rest of your family to get thru' this extremely hard time in your life!

[katlnhats]

Nancy,
I'm so very sorry. I know that it hurts like crazy. Please come and talk to us about how you're doing - we care.

Hugs,
Marilyn

[june72]

Nancy I am so sorry for your loss! Please know that we are here for you and will do all we can to help you thru this!

[misothere]

If hugs could reach thru' the internet, you'd be circled by all of us! We all really do care about you & what your going thru', remember that & check in & let us know how you're doing.

[Birdslave]

Hi-
My mother at 89 had a series of small strokes, TIAs, and they were somewhat controlled with medication. She didn't do everything the doctors suggested, such as exercise, but she did the rehab and took her meds. At 92 she had a major stroke which left her paralyzed on her right side.
The thing that no one seemed to realize, that my cousin knew about was that stroke victims (even major, paralyzing strokes!) can continue to recover for many years afterward. We had her moved to a smaller nursing home (the original one was way over-crowded, the second one in a smaller town) and my sister went in every day to make sure she was cared for and gettin PT and the nurses were working with her. The center of balance (I think it is called) if off, vision is off (mom wouldn't open her eyes the first few months because she thought she couldn't see! We had to tell her to try to look at us. After two years, she could recognize me 20 feet away although she was near-sighted!) And she had trouble eating, writing, sitting up, and so on, all of which improved. Remember, she was elderly to begin with, but she lived 6 years after her major stroke and that is not what killed her, it was a complication of her digestive system.
There is a lot of information somewhere about stroke recovery. My cousin-a survivor of 5 anyeurisms (sp) in her brain found the information. It must be on the internet, and the right healthcare provider, whether it be doctor or therapist, can do wondrous things.
I will pray for your dad, and you must be his advocate. Without all of her daughters, the doctors might have sent my mom to hospice to die after her stroke.
Best Wishes,
Leesa

[misothere]

Birdslave,
Perhaps you missed the replies regarding...sorry for your loss.

[katlnhats]

Birdslave,
Her Dad passed away from cancer, following the stroke.

Nancy, we're all here for you if/when you need us.

Hugs,
Marilyn

[june72]

Continued prayers!

[katlnhats]

Still praying - Nancy, when you get a chance, come talk with us...


Hugs,
Marilyn

[june72]

I agree with Marylin! We are continuing to pray for you and your family!

[babygirlnancy]

Hey everyone sorry that i havent been updating not really in the mood to write.neways were not doing to bad now.My mom and younger brother has good and bad days.They havent barried him yet because of the weather down it with the snow and what not.so that really sucks because i just want them to burried him and get it over with and also because i dont want it to be close to my wedding date.i just couldnt handle it.I miss him very much and still cant belive that hes gone.I keep asking god WHY WHY WHY WHy him.he has 4kids a great wife and 3 GRAND KIDS who missin him alot.Every time i see my niece and nepy makes me cry...Now when i call my mom I dont know what really to say to her cuz for the last few months it been "hi mom hows dad" and all about this about dad...I kinda feel bad cuz i dont call that much..Neways I love that you guys are thinking about us think more about my mom and my younger brother(who still lives at home) and my daddys GRANDKIDS....Ill try my best to keep update but its just alot going in my life right now and workin alot to..Sorry again for the late relpay

[misothere]

Nice hearing from you & I really do hope more days get better for all. With you working more - you probably will have delayed grief (especially near your wedding day).

I mentioned this before - maybe by email about some wedding ceremonies "ringing a bell once" for each person who has passed on that you want to remember on your special occasion. It "might" be something think about doing on your special day.

When you call your mom just ask "how she's doing now" & your brother too. Subject of former calls may've changed - but this will show your love hasn't.

I wish I had an answer to the "WHY" him question, it would come in handy "again" if I knew the answer for myself.

Take Care of yourself & try enjoying your neice & nephew & think how blessed "you" are to have them in your life!

[katlnhats]

Nancy,
Thank you for being here. The "why" question is one with no anwers that we know of here. It's so hard, for you, your Mom and the rest of your family. True too, when you call, just ask how they're doing - hopefully, they'll also ask how you're doing as I know you're having an awful time with this too - be a comfort to each other. We care. Prayers will continue.
Hugs,
Marilyn

[june72]

Nancy, just know that we are all here for you and that if you need us we are just a click away! Your heart will always ache for your dad, but I know that the Lord will heal your heart and give you peace and comfort! In time it will come for us all. Many hugs and prayers for you and your family!

[katlnhats]

Nancy,
Still praying, please know we do care.

Hugs,
Marilyn