I'm really missing my husband today

[Sandal16]

It's been 10 weeks today since my husband passed away and I'm really having a hard time. I've been able to go a few days at a time now without getting too upset, although I think about him all the time, but for some reason for the past 2 days I seem to miss him more than ever. I'm working full time and trying to act "normal" around my dd because it upsets her when I'm upset. Sometimes it dawns on me all over again that I'll never, ever see him or touch him or talk to him again (after 26 years of being together). I'd give anything just to talk to him for 5 minutes. I went through part of his side of the closet last night, that really brings the memories rushing in! I took off my wedding rings about 3 weeks ago and put them back on the next day. I still feel married, I just don't have a husband, if that makes any sense.

Anyway, I just wanted to express some of what I'm feeling and I know you guys are great listeners. Thanks.

[lookin4delz]

Sandal~
My heart goes out to you. Sending you a big hug.

[YorkieLover]

The way you are feeling seems very normal to me. You can't love someone for that long without it affecting you tremendously. I know it does not help to hear this, but time will help heal your broken heart ... but the void that was created will take longer. I'm sorry you are feeling so down. {{{ Hugs to you! }}}

[telos2000]

Sandy, I can't even come close to understanding your loss. However, you do have my deepest sympathy and my prayers. I think your grief is perfectly natural and that your consideration of still being married is valid. Only time will bring you to an understanding of and coping with your feelings. Focus on hanging on to the good memories and relish those. One day you will being to move on with your life, but you will never leave those memories behind. Give it time and don't let doubts come into play with your feelings. Your feelings are real and they belong to you and you alone. No one can understand fully what is going on with you in that regard.

Some may have experienced the loss of a spouse, but that is a multi-facated experience. Each person's experience is different, even though they may appear similiar. Hang in there and know that you are normal. You are a loving, feeling, caring individual. You have been through a lot and it was emotionally draining on you.

In due time you will start to do things that will bring you back into experiencing the joys of life. Do not let those opportunities pass you by when they arise. You have to remember to take care of yourself mentally, physically, and spiritually. Try not to let guilt play in any of those arenas. Keep a tight reign on those and free yourself.

Once again, you are in my prayers and thoughts. I pray blessings, peace, and understanding for you.

Rod

When my husband passed away over two years ago I was at a complete loss as how to move on alone. We had been married 36 years. It's true that time heals, but he will always be with you and you will find that as you move on it gets easier. Gradually I got back into the friends and fun things, and you will too. Remember all the good times you shared, discuss them with your family, and even laugh at the funny times.

Not a day goes by that I don't think about him, but it's in a good way and I feel fortunate for having him as long as I did. My thoughts and prayers are with you that you will find peace with this soon.

[sunlover5]

Just wanted to tell you I saw this thread and was praying for you.
No one can erase your pain or speed the healing of your broken heart, but I'm sending my best wishes to you that with the passing of time, you'll find joy in life again.

[YorkieLover]

How are things going with you and DD?

You must have been a wonderful and devoted wife. I am sure DH is still with you. I will be praying for you and hope that you will have a wonderful holiday.

[Sandal16]

Hi everyone, just an update on how we're doing. Saturday was 4 months since Tom passed, I seem to be doing a little better. For quite a while, I was breaking down every day, several times a day. Now I can go a few days without doing that, although I think about him every single day. I recently bought a memorial brick in his honor that will be placed in Rehoboth Beach, Delaware, next spring when they finish a remodeling of the main street. My sister lives near there and we always enjoyed being there.

My dd and I went to Ocean City (MD) for Thanksgiving, that has been our family tradition for many years now. It was hard being there without Tom, he absolutely loved going, but we still managed to have a pretty good time. I really missed him when we played putt-putt, he was always the score keeper!

Christmas will be the next hurdle, but with my dd and my family, I should get through it okay. My dd seems to be doing rather well. She misses him, but doesn't talk about it a lot.

Thanks for your support.

[sunlover5]

So glad you checked in and gave us an update. With the love and support of your family, hopefully you'll enjoy the magic of the holiday season while treasuring the memories of the good times you and your husband shared.

[blinky123]

Sandy,I lost my Mom in 1996,lost my sis in 1998,lost my brother 2002.It always seems like it was just yesterday.I still go through those lost days.When i`m feeling like this i look at there pictures and try to remember good times, funny times etc...This seems to help me.and they are always there in spirit.Let me give you a big hug.My thoughts and prayers are with you!

[freefinder]

praying the holidays bring fond memories instead of painful ones. May joy fill your heart and heal saddness and loss.