That was about the saddest wedding I have been to in a long time!

[mcshelll]

ackk - I was wrong again - better mark this down lol!!! Hope you know that one Dyllan ROFL!!!!

[billsmrs]

But if you want to help your brother, do what you can to make it easier for him. Love him AND his wife, for his sake if not for hers. He's made his choice, and it's the responsibility of everyone who calls him family or friend to stand by that decision.

I know and I couldn't agree more. But there are also things that alot of people haven't been told about this 'relationship'. But either way it is his problem....not mine, or anybody's. He has our support and he knows it. But as hubby put it.....it is still family and he cares what happens. There are children involved here and they will be the ones to get hurt before this is all over. BIL told us that she wants his kids to move to Chicago to live with his ex for a while! Well, that is crazy! Just because she doesn't have custody of 2 of her 3 kids doesn't mean he doesn't want his children! When his ex left him she left the kids too. She walked out and he was left to raise the kids and if I may so he has done an excellent job so far. It would just kill my BIL if his kids weren't there with him. He is a very good parent.

Either way.....it is his life but I just hope she doesn't push him into doing something else he doesn't want.

[jsalba]

Just my 2 cents..

It shouldn't really matter how short the ceremony was or how disorganized it was or if they had taco dip on their chin.

It shouldn't matter if it was one persons 5th wedding or their 1st.

It isn't our place to place judgement on the couple.. we are supposed to be at the ceremony because we care about them and to show them we are there to support their decision to make a committment to one another.. and to offer our love and support to them through their good and bad times.

If anyone was there for a reason secondary to that.. then they shouldn't have been there at all.

Again, just my 2 cents.

[billsmrs]

We went to offer our support. Unfortunately noone else in the family did. Just hubby, me, and MIL.

I agree with what you saying Jeff. It just is disheartening to know that they are ALREADY having problems! Know? That is NO WAY to start a marriage!

[tlspiegel]

This thread was at the bottom of another more current thread on the main GCC page. Isn't it interesting?

[crazytimes]

Yeah this sure is! I love that new feature that show's old threads.

billmrs, are they still married?

You know the hwole thing about gifts...my mom doesn't like to buy gifts for people who are getting re-married or who have been living together. I mean she might them something small, but her friends daughter, who had been living with her fiance for a while, had the longest gift list ever! She was shocked because she had always thought the whole idea of a gift list was to get things you NEED as a new couple...you know dishes, etc. things to help you START out. Now it's almost an excuse to get a new set of appliances, etc.

The long running joke in our family (my immediate family) is our cousin Deirdre...she had, I kid you not, CORN PICKS and COFFEE FILTERS on her gift list! ROFL! She registered at Target and a few other places and had the longest list of anyone I have ever seen. No kidding though, corn picks. My dad joked about actually getting her them.

[ShainaT]

I too wonder if this couple is still married 2 years later...

I think it was nice of billsmrs to go to the wedding since it was the FOURTH wedding for this guy. I mean, c'mon! Geez! Would you put your money in a bank that had gone bankrupt 4 times? I think not. How many times is he going to promise to stay together till "death do us part"? Assuming he isn't a 4 time widow or anything, he seems to pick poor matches for himself.

A former co-worker of mine was in 3 weddings for the same woman. The woman kept planning these fancy, elaborate parties and my friend kept having to buy bridesmaid dresses. There is a point where it becomes ridiculous and you just skip the big wedding and get married.

JMHO.

[Bones899]

Originally Posted by crazytimes

The long running joke in our family (my immediate family) is our cousin Deirdre...she had, I kid you not, CORN PICKS and COFFEE FILTERS on her gift list! ROFL! She registered at Target and a few other places and had the longest list of anyone I have ever seen. No kidding though, corn picks. My dad joked about actually getting her them.

Hey, we put a case of Mt. Dew and electrical tape on ours.


We got them, too. :-)

Nicole

[crazytimes]

Originally Posted by ShainaT

I too wonder if this couple is still married 2 years later...

I think it was nice of billsmrs to go to the wedding since it was the FOURTH wedding for this guy. I mean, c'mon! Geez! Would you put your money in a bank that had gone bankrupt 4 times? I think not. How many times is he going to promise to stay together till "death do us part"? Assuming he isn't a 4 time widow or anything, he seems to pick poor matches for himself.

A former co-worker of mine was in 3 weddings for the same woman. The woman kept planning these fancy, elaborate parties and my friend kept having to buy bridesmaid dresses. There is a point where it becomes ridiculous and you just skip the big wedding and get married.

JMHO.

Actually but I believe it was HER fourth wedding, not his.

[bestmidwest]

Ok, now my interest is completely piqued...we have to find out how they're doing...please????

My brother and (former) sister-in-law had a doozy of a (high tension) wedding. They stayed together for 14 years and then got divorced...I thought that was kind of silly. Turns out though that she's a lot less of a flake than we originally thought...she's a great mom, too. My brother turned out to be a flake but we still love him. It's true, you never know what goes on behind closed doors.

DH had some friends who didn't like me when we had been dating a while. They sure would have liked to get rid of me. He told me this and I said...do what you want, but I am warning you that I will be there for you long after those "friends" have found other things to gripe about. Now it's 13 years later..and where are those friends? Who knows?

[cata5]

Originally Posted by Bones899

Hey, we put a case of Mt. Dew and electrical tape on ours.


We got them, too. :-)

Nicole

Funny!! You might as well get what you can use.

I think it's much nicer to get a list (the longer it is the more choices!) with a variety of items and prices. I am more offended by lists that have very expensive items and nothing else for the bargain shoppers! BUT I never feel obligated to buy from the list anyway.

Do people still buy china? That is the dumbest thing to have in this day and age where most people eat casually and use paper plates more often than nice dishes. Mine look good in the china cabinet, but practically speaking there are many more things I could have used when I got married.

[dlabrie708]

Originally Posted by cata5

Do people still buy china? That is the dumbest thing to have in this day and age where most people eat casually and use paper plates more often than nice dishes.

I actually got china for my wedding shower and I use it too! Not just for special occasions, I use it whenever I feel like it. I know what you mean about the paper plates, but I love having my china. I have cheap wine glasses and expensive plates...LOL! Hey, glasses break more often, right!

My SIL made a face like I was crazy to use my china all the time [for pizza no less!!!], until I told her that I felt life is too short to wait for a special occasion. I already lived with my husband when we got married and we already had the necessities, so it was nice to get something I would NEVER have bought for myself. As a matter of fact, I think I will go have a cup of coffee in a pretty cup this morning...LOL!

billsmrs, I know you have major concerns and I don't blame you. I am not judging this woman by how many marriages she has had, but I am concerned about anyone who would want the children to go away! Like everyone here said, just pray for them.

My SIL was a little "nutty" and certainly different from everyone in my family when she married my brother, but we get along great and I have a lot of laughs with her now and I love her. They have been married about 9 years. She has really come around and so have I. I do believe that my brother helped her control her anger and childish behavior. She didn't learn it from her family growing up and had a lot of problems in her life. She has really grown as a peron and is a really good mother. They didn't have children when they got married, so obviously it is different, but I do believe people don't exactly change, but they sure can grow up! Maybe and hopefully this will happen in your SIL's case too!

Lori

[billsmrs]

Yes, it was HER 4th wedding and his 2nd. :-)

Well, they are still together but not happy. They almost got a divorce a few months ago and decided it would be cheaper to stay together at this point!

He works all the time so he doesn't have to be home. Her kids are in trouble all the time and one of them was kicked out of school for the rest of the year and is now in an alternative school. That was a HUGE mess there. My poor BIL looks like he could have a nervous break down any day now.

Hubby talked to him the other day and things are not good at all. He said all they do anymore is fight and he can't stand to be home anymore. He told hubby that he doesn't know what to do. Hubby gave him some good advice though....or at least I think it is......that he needs to think about what he wants and what is going to be best for him and his kids. If he loves her and wants it to work then get into counseling and see how to get things back on the right track. If she fights him on going to counseling then he will know it is over.