What do you consider unforgivable?

[telos2000]

We talk about tolerance and forgiveness, but do we really mean it? What do you consider to be unforgivable? Does it matter who does the act (i.e., your spouse, parents, children, or a stranger?) What ticks you off to the point you cannot forgive the one who does it?

An affair or another betrayal, a vicious lie or gossip, murder, etc.?

[devlina2u]

extramarital affair

[PHReD]

If someone boils and cooks your rabbit...
I'd probably not forgive them for that

[freesurfer]

An affair or doing drugs, murder, or lying!!!!!!!!

Hate liars!!!!!!!!!

[mama2calli]

I have forgiven many things in my life, but I don't forget (I'm Italian!!)

I think the two things I would not forgive (hubby) for would be a deadly social disease (such as AIDS) or abuse in any way.

My kids are still toddlers...hard to say...ask me again in the pubescent years! Anyone ever touches them in the wrong way, I would never forgive them...no matter whom...

My parents are close to 70 and I doubt they can do anything to ever hurt me...we are very close and I adore them, as does my hubby and our girls...

My friends...well if any of them ever slept w/my hubby and gave him a deadly social disease or told him to abuse me, I'd have them bumped off the face of the earth...

Kath

[LocaChica]

an affair for sure. Other than that, I think I can't say until I'm in that situation.

[misha123]

LIAR'S!!!!!!!!

[telos2000]

Originally posted by PHReD
If someone boils and cooks your rabbit...
I'd probably not forgive them for that

Gee, I knew someone would bring up the rabbit!

What about all those rabbits killed just to see if a women was pregnant. Remember those savage days.

[hrdlife1]

let's see, with my husband it would be adultery or physical abuse...
with friends or other ppl outside the family, gossipping/talking about me behind my back, i mean even the good stuff, oh i can't STAND it, it drives me nuts, i don't know why, i guess because i'm the type of person that, if i have a problem in something someone has said or done, i'm gonna tell them, not wait until they're gone and and say"omg can you believe her blahblahbhbhblhahhdshfdfkd" AAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHH THAT DRIVES ME CRAZY!! how am i ever supposed to fix it or stop doing what makes you mad if you don't tell me??!!!??? i haven' run across too many ppl in my life like this, but once i find out someone is a smack-talker BUH-BYE!! no use for 'em whatsoever anymore!! i literally just right then and there don't talk to them anymore, if they are gonna talk about everyone else around us, what's to say they won't talk about me? it was a hard lesson to learn but i found out the hard way that not everyone who claims to be your friend is really your friend...i used to be open with ppl when i first met them, and then this neighbor did this to me, where she acted like my friend all the time, just to get stuff outta me and then as soon as i turned my back, she's blabbin it all over the place, i mean stuff i NEVER would've told anyone, i told her in confidence (stuff about my life etc not about other ppl just personal things i didn't want anyone to know) and she told EVERYBODY the first chance she got, OH THAT JUST MAKES ME MMMMMMMMMAAAAAAAADDDDDDDDD i don't even know why, i know ppl are gonna talk but every time, when i've found out a friend of mine has "said" something about me, oh it would HURT like i can't even explain hurt and bam done no more, wouldn't even acknowledge their presence....i know i'm weird...i just can't stand it lol

whoa, did i go off on a rant there??? ROFL!! ok breathe, calm down steph ROFL!!! SHEESH, how petty am i, i know, but really that is completely unforgivable to me, can't take it when i find out someone's been talking about me "behind my back" LOL, i would rather have someone come to me yellin and hollerin and flat out tell me they don't like me or can't stand me than act like my friend to my face and then talk all kinds of smack about me when i'm not around...know what i mean?? ok, i'm just the weird one LOL

strangers, well i don't expect much, but if ya bump into me, say EXCUSE ME or i might just get hostile LOL

[cashhound]

Hmmm. This really is a tough one for me. I think I could forgive cheating once. Twice...I just don't know.

I hate liars...but we ALL lie to a degree, right? Little white lies...stuff that doesn't really matter. But the big time liars...ones who try to cover their butts, ones who lie just to start trouble...that's unforgiveable.

I'm intolerant of arrogance...especially when the arogant person is just a fool. I know many arrogant people who are justifiably arrogant...very intelligent, know their stuff...but the ones who are complete idiots...grrrrrr.

CHild abuse...that one would be unforgiveable.

[Shainie]

If my husband cheated on me - there would be no second chance. The trust would be totally gone, and the hurt would never stop.

Lying I can forgive, but I never forget. I had a girlfriend who lied CONSTANTLY when we were in school. To this day, I still have a hard time believing 99% of what comes out of her mouth.

If anyone hurt my children, I wouldn't be able to forgive them.

[Jaxxie]

1. Ignorance: If you don't know what you're talking about, then shut up and stop wasting my time.

2. Sexual abuse of children.

3. People who cannot take the blame when they do something wrong and need to scapegoat everything.

4. People who abuse animals.

5. Spouse beaters.

6. People who steal/lie.

7. People who don't shower. LOL

8. Last but not least i cannot forgive the bank that offered me the incredible refinance rate and when i went to lock in claimed the system must have corrupted my information and i lost the rate. I curse them!!! LOL

[buckeyemomma]

Well, I most generally forgive but there is a LOT I cannot forget. If someone does something to harm my family and it leaves a scar (mental or physical)...I find it very hard to forgive. I try to ask God to show me what to do.

There has been 2 incidents in my life I have never forgiven one for. One was my dd's ex-husband molested my grand-daughter..( it wasn't her Dad).she was 3 years old!! They never did anything to him...they said she was too young to testify. Till the day of my judgement, I will hate this (I can't call him a man) thing for what he did to my grand-baby. She has very deep emotional sacrs from this and has went to counceling off and on for the past 8 years because of him. I shudder to think what I would like to do to him.

The other incident is the way my ex-sister in law treated my brother (even when he was dying).. I have tried very hard to forgive her because of my neice and nephew and I try to be civil to her, but deep down, I cannot forgive her.

I know it is wrong not to forgive in God's eyes, but I need him to show me how I can do it.