I think Iam giong to die

[ihvfaith]

I am praying for you. Everyone has given you good advice so I will just send you ((((hugs)))) and prayers.

[GR8GIRLS]

Originally Posted by tlspiegel

Telos! You're in the wrong thread...

Juliana you WILL get through this. Coming out of an abusive relationship leaves one's head and physical being all messed up. Signals that seem good don't set up the red flags that normally would be there for you.

You're antennae are out of whack.

This new guy is NOT worth worrying one more minute about. You WILL realize that he is also being abusive to you by hanging you out to dry like this. He either is for you, or he's not. Tell him to hit the road, until he figures out what he wants to do. There should be no question in his head. Until then you chill g-friend.

The bottom line: Any guy who lets you dangle on the end of a string needs to have that string cut. If he is so wishy-washy now (and I'm SURE he's a very nice guy) just imagine what it will be like in the future when he get's a bug up his a** about something. Your hair, your kids, it could be anything that throws him for a loop. Then what do you do? You wish you never met him. NEVER EVER tell anyone - you'll do anything to be with them or have them come back to you. This gives HIM the POWER. YOU TAKE the POWER. Learn to say NO! And mean it.

Hugs to you - you will make it through this. It's a test of your strength. God is giving you a lot right now - I realize it's almost impossible to see the light at the end of this tunnel. But you Pray and Pray some more. Pray for guidance.

Once again, I agree with TL.....you n eed to get out of the house and take control...as hard as that may seem right now. Get to a counselor and get your kids back. This IS said with love...NOW MOVE!!!!!!!!! ((((JUL)))

[Brenda2000]

((((((((((((((((((((((((((Julie)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
We are all here for you....I hope you're doing better...please let us know, we are all worried and care very much!!

[Mouse7088]

Oh Julie....I feel for you, I really do. I feel even more for your kids. Mom and Dad split up...THEY had to work through that (and I'm sure still are) and now Mom is so confused that she can't have them around?!?!?! I understand getting them away for a BIT babe...I really do, but you HAVE to pull up the strength deep from within....your kids WILL help you with that.
This man you've been seeing is the man who helped build your confidence back up. He probably has helped you a lot, but ya know...take what you've learned hon' and go on with your days. I know it sounds easier said than done. Also....he would rather terminate this pregnancy??? Well, geesh, wouldn't that make his life so cut and dry...you on the other hand would be the one living the rest of YOUR life with such a decision.
I agree with everyone...telling him you'll do anything to have him back is not healthy babe. Hurting is healthy, crying is healthy, HEALING is healthy...giving someone the idea that no matter how badly they treat you, you still want them in your life and the life of your children. It's like giving him permission to treat you like crap because it doesn't matter to you. Well you DO matter Julie, if he did help you regain your confidence...use it...use it later even to care about a good man. One that will treat you well.
I know how hard it is to end a marriage and start seeing someone. I was a nervous wreck. Heck, I was scared to death. My kids DID help me through it...they were the ones always there at the end of a rough day...they were my constant laughter. They weren't leaving me and I wasn't leaving them for anyone or anything. A good man will fall in love with your children as he falls in love with their mother....he will also find it impossible to just walk away over something silly because he has fallen in love so many times, all found in just one small family.
Please take care of yourself...in all completeness. Hug your children and love them like you always have. My thoughts and prayers to you and yours.

[Freebielady]

I dont post that often,but I do read,Just wanted to offer((hugs&prayers))),Please let us know how you are.

[Mouse7088]

Oops...just wanted to add...Julie, babe...at the time you said you'd do anything to have him back...ya know, I'm willing to bet that it was just said while VERY emotional. I had no right to make my post come across as if you WOULD do anything to have him back in your life. I do understand tho why anyone would say such a thing....it's all in the moment. I've said many things "in the moment" and later thought "Uhhhh, can I take it back??" Sometimes you can of course

[eldo]

I think you've received excellent advice here, so just wanted to send my good wishes. I know things will work out for you and your precious children. (((Julie)))

[Juliannaluv]

First off, I am sorry for worrying all of you so much. Second, thank you for all of your kind words, support and prayers. I ended up in the hospital on Sunday and just got home (my boys are at church or believe me I'd be all over them right now) I did end up miscarrying so there is no decision to make there. I was in no state of mind to be caring for anyone, even myself. It was really in my best interest to be admitted to the hospital. I finally ate & had something to drink after 5 days of no food or water. I am feeling somewhat better but this is going to be a long "healing" road.

As far as my boyfriend is concerned, Yes, I am very hurt but I do need to respect his request for some time to sort through his feelings & thoughts. He is not a bad man...he is a very good man and I am glad he came to me with this now instead of letting it go on any longer. I guess we just see what happens from here. One day at a time.......

[Mouse7088]

I'm truly sorry for your loss Julie.
One day at a time babe....very wise words

[telos2000]

{{{{{{{{{{{{Julie}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Julie~ You have my number so call me if you want to vent. I have a big shoulder to lean on and I'd like to help if I can. Take care of yourself.
(((((((JULIE))))))

[snooze14]

I am so sorry for all the misery you have been going through. I have been there. The best thing I could do for my relationship was to give him space. I too was pregnant and couldn't deal with it. I had a support of family and friends that helped me pull myself together and be strong. All I wanted to do was to beg him back because the pain was unbearable. Looking back now, I think it was the hormones from being pregnant that made me irrational. I finally gave him the space he needed and he came back and asked me to marry him. That was 18 years ago.

I will be praying for you. Remember you have support here. Hugs to you and your children.

[Snowpuff]

One day at a time is good. Heal well and quickly now! Many hugs and prayers are coming your way.

[whitequeen96]

It's been a few days since we heard from you, so I just wanted to check in and see if you're feeling any better since last Sunday. You have gotten lots of good advice, so I don't really have much to add, but I just wanted to let you know that we do care about you!

Hang in there, babe! It WILL get better!

[Juliannaluv]

Well, I am back fromt he hospital again. I went back the very next day after I posted. I spent another week there. I am okay now and will be going to some outpatient treatment. I will be off work probably another 3 weeks.