I am so embarrassed..

[freesurfer]

My 6th grader got caught passing notes yesterday......the note was about the teacher who caught her passing it. I guess when my Stepdaughter goes to her mom's for the weekend, she calls people in our town and pranks them! DUH!! People have caller ID now!! I can't believe she does this! This is so embarrassing for me! She doesn't even care. I could just die about now.

[Shainie]

Hey, was I your daughter in a past life? lol

In 6th grade I really didn't like my teacher. So I passed a note one day about how much I didn't like her, HOPING she would catch it.

And those prank calls - my friend and I would sit for an hour and dial random numbers. But with #69 and Caller ID, I can't believe kids still do it!

[freesurfer]

That's what I was thinking too!! But she's back on her kick of acting up, not listening, not caring about her appearance, or anything. Pretty much a snot!! I think it's because her sisters birthday is Sat. and her brothers is Tuesday and the attention is not around her!!! UGH!!

[bradedit]

Depending on what they said in the phone calls, I think it is pretty innocent old fashioned kid stuff, I'd rather have the prank phone calls. Its embarassing but not life threatening.

(Is your refridgerator running, you better go catch it, ROFL)

[freesurfer]

There's a lot more acting up and acting out going on only because she is able to use the "I want to go live with my mom" story so much. I am embarrassed because I was hoping only my son would act the way she has for the past 3 years now. But I will live I guess.

[LocaChica]

I used to prank call people all the time, up until the summer before my freshman year of high school. I won't tell you exactly what we (my friends joined me all the time) did, but I think we may have landed a few men in the doghouse with their wives.

[JenniferC]

AAAHHH the beautiful days before caller id. The phone I used to have... Oh I was BBAAADDDD
Hey LocaChica - did we used to hang out? HAHA.. I know what you are talking about.

[AndersonGal]

Hang in there FreeSurfer!
They embarrass us but we embarrass them too.

[dlabrie708]

I am sorry your step-daughter embarrassed you, but I'm sure most people understand that it is just dumb kid stuff.

I am not a step-parent, so I don't know how difficult it can be at times. However, I have noticed that sometimes when you write about your step-daughter, it comes across a little harsh. It sometimes appears as there is a separation between your biological children and your step-daughter when I read your words. I'm sure it is only human nature, but I am guessing your step-daughter might pick up on it as well at times. I believe you told us before that her biological mom doesn't have a whole lot to do with her. As a girl, that must be tremendously difficult to deal with. This is not to say that her actions aren't just as difficult and annoying to deal with, but maybe there are some serious emotions going on with her and she acts out due to these feelings [and probably to bother you as well].

I'm sure someone else who is a step-parent and deals with this type of situation on a day-to-day basis would have some good advice for you.

I wouldn't worry too much on the prank calls and note passing though. Just kid stuff...

Lori

[freesurfer]

Lori, I try not to talk negative or harsh...sometimes it just amazes me that she would act this way when I've been the only constant figure in her life. The only seperation is when she acts this way and makes her Dad and her mom have to fight and argue and then they pull me into it all and it ends up being my fault. I know this is minor to many....but the old saying...walk a mile in my shoes....LoL!!
We did find out some other things that have been happening when she is with her mom and they all go against our rules we have. Her dad spoke with her step-dad about it since her own mother doesn't meet us to pick her up. So I guess we'll see how this week goes....

[secrettreasure]

As I have been a step-parent before...I know. I have a step-daughter,,,even though her father and I aren't together anymore I have visitations with the children. Her mother has next to nothing to do with her children. But when she was in the picture,,,I wondered at times if their mother didn't encourage them to act out for us. They lived with us,,,and my step-daughter seemed to crave attention more than my daughter. I do know that my step-daughter is jealous of my dd. I try to be fair with both the girls, they are only 18 mos. apart in age. But,,,seems that my d step d is always in some sort of mischief. She is sneaky part of the time and doesn't always tell the whole story. But,,,I love her alot. She has been in my life since she was 4 and now is almost 16. I know and hope it is just a phase. She plans on going to college and being an attorney. Hang in there...better days to come.

[Mouse7088]

Whew...my hubby is a "step" parent...but we try not to use that word...because there isn't any "substitue" when it comes to Kenny being their Dad. I personally don't know if I could "handle" becoming part of a ready made family...I guess I could, but.......

Oh man...this note business, prank calls...<sigh> what memories..LOL! Ummmm, some landed me in hot water tho w/ the teacher...one in particular..Mr. Burdsall (pronounced bird-saw)...he had a pretty large nose as well..uhhhh, that was just too much temptation for me..LOL! I drew a picture of him wiith a prominant BEAK for a nose and I remember a gosh awful looking tie...if it wasn't bad enuf, I LABELED IT! DUH! LOL! I wasn't so embarassed by getting caught as I was knowing how badly I probably hurt his feelings.
Ohhhhhhhhh...I know I landed some dudes in trouble w/ the significant other...WOWOWOWOW! It was too ez then...LOL! We kept a "log" of the ones we just HAD to call back every weekend...yipes.

[Mouse7088]

Ummmm...uhhhh...MamaMouse, uhhhh....you can just pretend you didn't see this post...lalalalala! LMBO!

[freesurfer]

I wondered at times if their mother didn't encourage them to act out for us.

Good point!

[MLM77721]

I lived with another family for a time when I was thirteen (my other parents I always talk about.)

It was hard for me because I loved them so much because it was so different (in a GREAT way) from my own mother and my home life with her. I never wanted to go back. But I was confused at 13 on how to get attention. I felt the only way I would have their attention was to act out.

I don't have any advice to give really, because I still don't really know how I would have acted otherwise. I guess what I was looking for was a lot of love, and for me that meant hugs and kisses and special dinners where my fav dish was made. Or just spending time with my "family" where they sat down with me and their daughter and played games with us.

Maybe she needs some more family time? Thats my two cents. But trust me.... the feeling you have when its your family... but yet its "not" is a very hard thing to handle. Maybe it was harder for me because neither parent was my birth parent. I felt unwanted at times. Even though I know for a fact they never felt that way. Being a teen is hard enough without lifes other curveballs.