trouble in paradise..did ya even miss me?

[buckeyemomma]

wow! where do I start? when dd and I took Boo to Cin. last Thurs. (the day the war started..btw)...on the way, her exhaust started making noise..found out it is her catylic converter. then we got into it with the nutritionalist (at the hospital)...then on the way home, we got in a very slow traffic jam (which is normal for Cin.)...ask AndersonGal! well, the semi in front of us stopped very sudden and had no brake lights and we ALMOST got hit from behind with another semi (he had to go on the brim) then we get to Middletown and dd got her call phone messages (her phone won't work in Cin) (cricket)...and there was tons of messages from my sister. seems my dh and my ds and my other dd (the one I have trouble with) and my grandson was all arrested!!!! mouse knows some of what I have been going through...any how, dh took dd to school to try to see her dd and got into it and they called police, she lives with her Dad...and dd had threatened to take her and go back to Florida... they left and went to her ex's house and got into it with his wife , then got in a fight with a friend of her ex. my ds was at the hospital, then taken to juvenile dh....as was my grandson. my ds has NEVER done anything like this. he was involved in the fight!! SHE is the only one that got out of jail. and that evening, I had my other 2 dd's go to get my van.....about half hour from here( where it was parked when they all got arrested) and someone had sliced all 4 of my tires!! so it cost $80 to have it towed to Sears...cause I bought the tires there and thought my road hazard would help cover it...no dice!!! they was sliced...so had to by 4 new tires. I was such a nervous wreck and ready to do something...not sure what???? but they wouldn't release my ds to me because (he said) my mental state) so ds spent the week-end in jdh.....meanwhile, on Thurs. night ..actually Fri. morning at 3:45 A.M., we got a call from children's services...the dd that caused all this ws put in mental health and if we didn't take her other 2 kids, they was putting them in a foster home. so we had them...no clothes, no pampers for the baby or anything. ..

some joyous week-end!! there is A LOT more to this horror story...but needless to say, my nerves are SHOT!! I stayed with Boo's mommy (Tami).....well, when I got ds out, we came home and other dd got out of mental health and had made a bunch of NASTY calls to me and Tami.

Because of things happened in the past year and half, I left dh in jail....Tami got him out on bond last night and I told him he could not stay here....so he is staying at her house. it is one big mess and in a way, I am glad all this happened..so I can get everything out in the open. I won't go to details here, but it isn't a pretty story. I heard things I NEVER would have dreamed of...I have to find the truth out...now I have to try to stay strong for me and my ds. and decide what is best for us...with no money...wow..we get combined income of $390 a month!! and my Dr. said NO WAY I can work...she told me not to lift more than 5 pounds. to top it off, I lost my medical help, so couldn't afford to go to Dr...so I went to E.R. because I was feeling bad and hurting more than usual...I have pneumonia and my arthritis has spread into my neck and shoulders. Across the top of my back and my chest is hurting really bad. and I have 3 herniated disks in my back..(from an MRI)


I don't believe things can get any worse. this past week, I have felt like my world was coming to an end. all I could do was cry...I couldn't eat or sleep. It seemed like it was all a really bad nightmare. Now my ds (15 and NEVER been a problem or been in any trouble of any kind) has to go to court. dh already has a record from about 10 years ago (2 other times) for felonious(sp) assualt, so he may get indicted to grand jury.

and Tami got suspended from her job, beacause she had to take Thurs. off to take her son to Cin. to Shriner's Hospital, then we was up all night and I really was in no condition to take care of an 18 month and a 9 year old, so she tried to take an (earned vacation day) and they wouldn't let her...they have NO emergency days..you have to call in 24 hrs in advance...so she got 5 day suspension pending termination....

remember before when she had trouble getting off to take Boo to the Dr.? well, his Dr. filled out papers and they HAD to allow her Family Medical Leave of some kind, but it has to be for her son, so she couldn't use it for any other family emergency... and the 24 hour notice.


Just wanted to let you all know where I've been...that's all I have been doing is crying and praying. God must have a reason for all this to happen.


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[freesurfer]

Oh my Momma! You have been through a lot. I know of some of these problems from other posts of yours, but didn't realize the extent of it all. I hope you know how much we all love ya here and hope only for the best for you. Hang in there, you are a strong woman and will find a way to overcome this.


(((((HUGS)))))

[luvmetender]

((((momma))))

Sounds like you have way too much to deal with! Why don't you take some time away from the internet and spend some time with your family? Sounds like you guys need that.

[tlspiegel]

Momma... sending prayers of healing and peace from all the turmoil. It's so sad reading about it, and I am sorry you're going through it in RL. Please take care of your health honey. I am sorry.

[AndersonGal]

Now~HANG TOUGH!
Returned YEM.

[sweetiris]

Sorry to hear about all the things going on with you. Just hang in there and things WILL eventually get better!!!!

[mayfly]

(((((((((((big hug Mary))))))))))))))))))

This really bites. I am so sorry for all the trouble you are going through hun, and that your husband is adding to it. How is Boo?

[cashhound]

(((((((mommamary)))))))))

I hope things settle down for you soon. This has to be playing **** with YOUR health problems too. I wish there was something I could do to help.

[jen6889]

OH Momma!!! I'm so sorry for all your troubles! Hang in there!

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[stking]

Oh Momma, of course we missed you! I don't keep up on all the GCC stuff sometimes so I had no idea you were going thru so much! I wish there was something I could do to help! All I can do is send you my HUGS, PRAYERS and GOOD THOUGHTS!!!!!

[geepie1961]

((((((momma))) sorry to hear about all of your problems, I pray things get better real soon for you.

[LocaChica]

omg, momma! that's a lot for one person to handle. I think you're a strong woman, you'll definitely get through this. {{{{momma}}}}

[buckeyemomma]

THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR SUPPORT


am trying to hang in there. no one will help as long as this is his legal residence. he is staying with Tami. Brandon and I are doing ok, just trying to figure out where to go from here. the court will really have final say, i guess. Boo is sick and has sores in his mouth from his increased methrotrexate (sp) injections. he is taking a new med to stop that, but it isn't working. this has placed such a burden on the whole family. now Tami has lost her job because she wasn't able to work Friday...she just found out today..we was up all night (just about) and child services brought the kids at 4 A.M. and she would not leave me because I was a nervous wreck and she took me to the court and to talk to a couple people about all this.

now, don't know what can happen next. am getting myself and Brandon into counceling. can't get lease switched to my name unless legal seperation or a divorce is filed.

I will try to let you all know how things are going....need all the prayers we can get.

am going to make some more calls . I had my main line for phone shut off to help with bills. am having cable shut off also.

everything is in my name except the stupid lease....that sucks.

dh isn't talking much at this point. except trying to say it isn't his fault. Brandon feels really bad and has talked to me some about all this.he wants to go to counceling. I don't want to push him at this point. Brandon is a very emotional and loving person and his feelings are hurt very easily. But he also has a temper at times. and he has to learn to control it and to not keep things to himself and let them build up. But I want him to realize what he has done and also that I love him no matter what and that I can't help him unless he lets me know exactly what he is feeling and am trying to get him to get ideas of what he could have done differently in this whole mess. I am not going to give him ideas...I want him to figure out on his own. It will not help this situation, but I think will possible help him in the future..should any situation arise. make him think before he acts, and to think about consequences of his actions.

Thank you again for hugs, support and prayers.


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[cashhound]

(((((((mommamary)))))))

I don't know if a women's shelter could help you or not. At the very least, they might be able to put you in touch with groups that COULD help you financially and such. I understand how difficult it is dealing with the *legal* aspects of separation and the *reality* aspects.

Call one of the women's groups. I'm sure they could help.

Hang tough. We're here for ya.