Are you the type of person that can fall in love easily, with more than one person?

[3tbear]

I fall in love so easily, all the time, a true romantic I am, or else maybe it's just infatuation. There are so many beautiful people out there in the world how can we not be attracted to more than one at a given time in our lives. I see the beauty within people, their souls. I love my DH dearly, but I can always find things I love about other people as well, that's not to say I want to be with them, that just means I feel a love for them, like a cherished friend. I always find the good in them, know what I mean? Your heart always knows what you truly want. Sometimes it's impossible to follow your heart but it brings joy to your life knowing you have people who love you and make you happy, and you them.

[Mouse7088]

Are you the type of person that can fall in love easily, with more than one person?

I have always believed that no one can LOVE more than one person (as in a deep love, like in a relatioship). I've had friends who have had affairs and said they love their husband AND their "on the side" deal. I have never, ever understood this. I look at them and say you HAVE to love one more than the other, it's just a matter of digging deep enough to find out....sometimes I think they're afraid to do just that.

[3tbear]

Mouse, I don't believe in affairs, they are just wrong. If you marry and love that person, well, that's it, you love THAT person. How can your friends say they love both? Like you said, if they dig deep enough, they will figure out whom they love the most. They must be very unhappy if they have to have affairs.

[Mouse7088]

3tbear...I can "see" how affairs happen, for what ever reason, I don't ever think it's right tho and yeah...I will never understand someone saying "I can't choose, I love them both."

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[Shainie]

I do believe you can love more than one person at once. You may love certain things about one person, and certain things about the other, and love who they are. And they both could give you those tingly feelings when you're with them.

Love isn't a feeling reserved just for one person . . . we have a deep love for each of our children, right? Do we love one of them more than the other?

When I was dating, I fell in love very easily. (Or infatuation). I was also a hopeless romantic.

Affairs are a horrible thing - nobody wins. Heck, I'm too busy for an affair anyway. And besides that . . . I already have a pain in the butt, why would I want another? Hahaha But I love my "pain in the butt" more than anything, so I'll keep him.

[3tbear]

You make a good point Shainie, you're right, you can love all of your children, why could you not love some things of more than one person at the same time? I never thought of it that way, but it didn't occur to me 'cause I don't have any children. When I'm at school I love things about my teachers, each has special qualities. You can't help love people who give of themselves on a daily basis, are kind, helpful and caring.

[Mouse7088]

I don't hold my kids in the same light as I hold an "adult relationship". They can beat me up all day long and I will still love them at the end of each day, I may not LIKE them, but I will always love them. I just could never say myself that I love two men 100% equally, in an adult situation.

[tkkmasky]

I'm with Mouse on this one.....

of course I love each of my kids but that is different. I love my hubby more than life itself and couldn't ever ever imagine loving another man, we've been together almost 14 years now and known each other since we were 5 and it just keeps getting better. I don't WANT to love anyone but him. Maybe that sounds weird, I don't know.

[mayfly]

I think that the love we have for our children is very different than the love for our dhs.

You don't ever love someone elses children as passionately as your own.

I think with affairs, they come when one partener is tired of the hard work, and not seeing the reward. So the "love" they feel for another person is really the excitement and reward with no work. But not reality.

I really care for and love my friends and family. But the dynamics in loving my spouse are totally unique, I don't see anything like it in any other relationship, so I am not sure I understand the question 3tbear.


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[3tbear]

mayfly, you can have a deep love built of friendship, as in the love of your friends and you can have a love of your children and spouse. Love is love no matter how you look at it, but as you say, love of your spouse is different, and it is. It's not the same as the love of a friend but it does give the same end result, it makes you happy, it brings you joy, it just makes the world a better place to live in.