Do you ever have dreams that bother you all day? (spouse cheating)

[Shainie]

This morning I had a dream that my husband had these 3 initials written on his arm in fancy script lettering, so I asked him what it was and he wouldn't tell me, so I accused him of cheating on me and he wouldn't deny it. He was just acting like "no big deal" while I was flipping out. Then he proceeded to blame me for his cheating. So when he left for work I took our 2 boys and got into the van in our garage and started it up with the garage door closed while I cuddled with them on the van floor.

ISN'T THAT HORRIBLE????

Even just typing it is causing me to tear up. (I'm an emotional wreck today for no known reason).

If I brought this up to my hubby, he would just tell me I'm being stupid.

And it scares me to even talk to him about it, because I've always believed if you put an idea in someone's head, chances are it'll happen.

Once in high school I told my boyfriend that my friend told me she liked him. She never did tell me that, but I just wanted to see his reaction. Well not to long after that he broke up with me and started dating her.

So I feel like if I accuse or question my husband about cheating, he'll test the waters. BUT it's so crazy because my husband is like the most loyal person I know! If he did cheat on me I'd probably die of shock.

I'm not sure what my problem is today . . . but that dream really messed with my head. Thanks for letting me ramble!

Rae Ann
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[cutie_pie]

that was a terrible dream, i can understand why you are upset.

Maybe there is a non-sexual meaning........I mean, since the marriage bond is so personal and exclusive, maybe there is something that is bothering you and your subconscious is playing it out in dream form as sexual/affair, as a symbol for what is bothering you......

I have had these sort of dreams before, and i let them get hold of me and ruin my day too. I think for me too, there was something non-affair-ish bothering me, and popped out in dream form....

Did you have an argument about maybe his spending too much time watching football, not feeling that he is there for you 100% emotionally or something. I am grabbing at straws, I know, but i am hoping there is something that will explain it, so you aren't tortured by the dream all day.
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[Shainie]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by cutie_pie [/i]
[B]Did you have an argument about maybe his spending too much time watching football, not feeling that he is there for you 100% emotionally or something. I am grabbing at straws, I know, but i am hoping there is something that will explain it, so you aren't tortured by the dream all day.
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I guess there could be a variety of reasons. I was just griping that him and I haven't had a "date" for . . . I guess I lost count of how long. The last 2 times we tried making dates someone died, so we ended up at funerals instead. (My dad's wake was on our 5 year anniversary).

Also he's been working every single weekend lately.

AND my favorite song right now is "forgive" about a guy telling his wife he cheated on her. LOL

So my subconscience is just working overtime I suppose.
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[Rayann]

I have had those kind of dreams before.
And even though you know its just a dream it will still mess up your day.
I agree with cutie_pie... I think its just a build up of many little things, and that's how it comes out in your dream.
You will feel better tomorrow.
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[jersey_girl227]

Two weeks ago I had a nightmare that I stabbed my brother to death!8o

I felt so guilty, disturbed and ashamed for days! I couldn't understand what would make me dream such a thing.

I did a dream search online and found some explanation for it. Maybe you can do that, too.

After a few days, you'll feel better. I know I did. And the funniest thing was my brother asked me if he could borrow $100 two days after my dream. How could I say no after I just killed him, LOL!?
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[jen6889]

I have had three dreams now, all over a period of about 6 years, about my husband being killed in a horrible accident. The first one, was in the morning, he had already left for work, so I called him just to make sure he was ok.

Just last Friday I had a dream that my son, Cody, just suddenly dropped dead. I was hysterical, sobbing and screaming to my mom "He wanted to be Spiderman so bad for Halloween and now he'll never get to wear the costume." Then somehow I ended up in my daughter, Michelle's room and I was putting her clothes away wondering how she'd do without her brother. Then all of a sudden, it was Michelle that had died and Cody was right there and both Cody and I were sobbing together. Then I woke up.. Thank God, and I had that shortness of breath and that weird panicky feeling you get when you've just had an all too realistic bad dream. I jumped out of bed and went to check on the kids. They were just fine, but I didn't sleep very well after that and was pretty shook up over it for the rest of the day.
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[LocaChica]

Sometimes I dream that my husband is cheating and I wake up sooooooooooooooo mad at him. :{ :{ It usually doesn't ruin my day, though. It's just a dream and to me it means nothing. Sometimes he dreams that I've cheated on him and he wakes up mad at me, too. We usually just joke about it.
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[AndersonGal]

those are Night Mares.
Anything can trigger them.

[COLOR=blue]This is kind of funny now but not at the time. After I was married and had quit my job and insurance agent called and was asking our occupations. When I stated I no longer was working (I was the ONLY one working when we got married) he said [/COLOR] [COLOR=red]"Oh, just a housewife".[/COLOR] [COLOR=blue]Well, that just burned my buns![/COLOR] :{ [COLOR=blue]That night I dreamed we were having a party and my dh came over with a woman on each arm to the washer where I was doing laundry. He said "this is my wife, she is just a housewife".[/COLOR] [COLOR=red]Well, I sat up in bed and punched my dh in the gut-HARD. Bout woke him with a heart attack. I felt bad since I was part asleep but was still ticked at him all day.[/COLOR]

So, don't worry too much about it Shainie.
And- don't be scared to discuss things with your dh if they are REALLY bothering you.
It won't make it happen or not happen.
Sometimes they need to know what is going on in your head.
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[brandon man]

yes i have had dreams of my girlfriend cheating on me many times. and when i woke up i would be disgusted and i wouldnt even want to talk to her, or i would go after any of her friends that were guys. the one thing that always made it worse is that her "guy friends" act more then "guy friends". she is compleately capible of cheating on me as well, i just trust that she hasnt and i try not to think about it. just whenever you wake up feeling down because of a bad dream, kick back and listen to bob marley. always works for me.