[freefinder]

First everyone has a right to their feelings.You feel what yo feel.That does not change how other people feel but open talking between all of you will give everyone a chance to tell how they feel.

About the cat.Since you see an end coming to the cat staying you may not need to do more than allergy meds for you till that time.Since cat dander is what causes most cat allergies to cats, cleaning both the cat and the house will help some.Cleaning the air with an airfilter can also help.

Smoking in the house.I do not think should happen with a 17 year old still in the house.Washing the house will help as will an airfilter.Nobody smokes in my home but I use Hepa airfilters in every room of my home to reduce our families allergy problems.Cigrette smoke really bothers me both my own allergy issues (runny nose, burning itchy eyes, nausa and if exposed for longer migraine with vomiting) and not wanting my kids exposed.My own Father was a smoker so as a kid I did not know that a mystery health problem I had trouble with for years would go away when not around his smoke and come back whenever I got near any smoker long enough.The smell of smoke still brings back memories of my Father even though it also makes me feel sick.

The pictures.....As adult child of divorce I lived with my parents not doing the samething as far as photos.Mom put all photos away or got rid of them.My Father put up every picture he could find from the past.I agree with another poster that taking some new pictures needs to happen.Photos are all I have left of some of the people I have truely loved.Yes, their photos are comforting to me but those photos are memories, they can no longer hug me when I need a hug but only you know it you can shair with the memory of anothers love.No matter how stressful or disfunctional your boyfriends relationship was with his first wife was he still loved her warts and all.Knowing that he was able to love another that deeply, if he is ready to love you as strongly.....think about it for both you and your kids