[misothere]

I called SIL last nite & asked about MIL.

Now I'm not sure if SIL's call before about "MIL going downhill" was all "Dramatics" or to Prep me for what I heard tonite.

SIL is MIL's Health Proxy & has been her Financial Proxy (or whatever) for years. So, last call SIL was all worried about MIL passing so close to her bro' (my hubby) & now she's had a change of heart.

She's told Alzheimer's Unit to take MIL off an Alzheimers Medication called Aricet (? spelling) since "SIL feels" it's doing her no good any longer & admitted it's $130.00 a month.
Staff informed SIL previously that if MIL goes off that medication there could be a Fast Decline.

SIL said she figured MIL didn't have any Quality of Life anymore anyway.

MIL hasn't been eating great for months now, but does like & drink 2 Ensure a day. I live 2 hrs & 45 min. away & I have to listen to what SIL says is going on with MIL & as of just after Christmas...the 2 Ensures were a routine.

(It's 'cuz MIL isn't "disabled enough" to have a one on one feeding helper & when they noticed she wasn't eating her food on tray - they did the "easy" route & gave her Ensure as a Meal Replacement).

SIL was told by staff that some patients can live for "years" by just drinking Ensure & not eating.

Basically SIL's change of heart from not wanting MIL to pass so close to her oldest brother's death has changed.

Now SIL says ...."if mom dies tonite - I'd be OK with that, 'cuz she has no quality of life"!

I need somebody else "take" on all this - so I don't feel "like the bad guy" about my own emotions now.