[mayfly]

Would you read your childs email or intrude in some other way on their privacy? In general I don't do that, but my kids know that there is no true privacy from mom. I will respect their privacy as long as they earn it, and part of earning it is me ocassionally keeping tabs on them. But if I was suspicious about anything I would go through their rooms with a fine tooth comb, no hesitation. I think its a delicate balance, I want to give them their privacy and freedom, and ease up on the reigns a little. But when it comes down to it I am the parent, not the friend, and I still have some parenting to do until they are through the teenage years and adults.