After reading your GREAT contributions to the board- you should do what makes you happy. Who cares what the "Jones" are doing.
I don't have kids yet but plan to stay at home when I do. I like working but feel like my role is to be a mom one day. Kids stay out of trouble when they know mom is going to be there when they get home from school. Great example that will scare the pooh out of you but my mom's neighbor's daughter got pregnant-15!- last year one afternoon she was home "alone" before her mom got home from work! SCARY!!! I realize that's an older child but you know what I am saying.
Just my opinion but you should do what makes you proud and feel good.
By your postings- you are a wonderful mother and wife. You have such great ideas!!
Hang in there!
Traci